Rest or Restore? #IMMOOC
Last night, the #IMMOOC live Season 4 Episode 4 with Katie Martin, Eric Chagala, Kaleb Rashad, and John Spencer didn’t disappoint. Although John’s mic was pretty crackly, it seems as though it held out long enough for him to give his two cents on this incredibly thought provoking question by Dan Ryder.
As I am just days away from heading into Spring Break (but an incredibly busy and super exciting few days), John’s words spoke to me as he answered:
“Know the difference between being tired and being wounded ’cause being tired requires rest, but if you’re wounded, you need to be restore and that requires community, that requires something bigger than yourself. Know what restores you because if you’ve been wounded, you need to be restored, to have your cup filled before you give it away.”
Wow, talk about powerful! It’s no secret that we chose a profession that is incredibly demanding and challenging. By day’s end, I’m exhausted and need to rest and refuel so that I am ready to give my all the next day, and the next day, and the day after that. I’ve written about the importance that I attribute to finding meaning over balance, and tonight proved to be another example of how my mind works.
I am tired. I need rest. I told myself that tonight was a perfect night for rest as my husband went out to the Jets game and I’m now home with four sleeping boys. I had decided that tonight, I was putting everything aside and that I was going to rest. I ran myself a bath, did a bit of mindful breathing, and bam… my mind wondered and I brought it back to the present moment, without judgement, while focusing on my breathing. And then my mind wondered again… and again… and again. I eventually just gave up, pulled out my phone, and jotted down my thoughts for this blog. That is me. That is how I rest. That is how I refuel.
That though, as John explained, is different than being wounded. Being wounded or hurt requires more than just rest; it requires being built back up by a community of people who see your worth and value. Not long ago, my innovator’s soul was wounded. At first I was angry, and then I was hurt. Once I went through those emotions, and was ready to be restored, my PLF did just that; they lifted me up and reminded me of my worth. No one is immune from being wounded or hurt, it happens to us all, so it’s critical to know what restores us and who we can turn to in times of need. We are no good to anyone when we are down and out, we need to make sure we replenish our own cups so that we can continue to give to others, too.
How are you feeling? Are you tired or wounded? Do you need to rest or to be restored? How will you get what you need?